The Image Counsellor

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1) Leave home with wet hair – Shows that you have lousy time management

2) Display ungroomed nails – Gives you away even though you put on neat clothings

3) Have your butt cheeks split up into 4 sections with a maxi panty – Time to change to a larger size

4) Have bad breathe – Please do something about your acidic diet

5) Show off your armpit hair – Give it a final touch by shaving them

6) Not take a shower from top to toe – Believe me, people can see and smell you from miles away

7) Wear stockings with open-toe heels – It’s like wearing socks with slippers

8) Put on hair extensions when you have enough hair to show off – It’s just unnecessary

9) Wear fake lashes or lash extensions that are longer than your nose – My husband pointed this out to me

10) Speak on top of your voice everywhere you go – People can hear you


Finally, I am getting my braces done on Monday! I had 4 teeth pre-molar teeth removed this week. Trying to have my regular meals posed an issue because my jaw just aches from the process. My Mother-in-law was kind enough to sliced the sandwiches into bite size and made congee for me.

About 10 years back, an aquaintant pointed out that my teeth are crooked. It did not really bother me because I am just a student and my duty is not to look good. However, my attitude changed during my interview 2 years back, with my current boss who is a respected figure in the image managment industry, pointed out that I should get my braces done. I wonder “Why?”. A smile is worth a million dollars and sometimes it means winning the trust of people to earn that millions. It shows trust and sincerety. Also, it signifies your hygiene and increases your probability in getting a partner! Face it, looks counts. Do you want to kiss someone with crooked decaying teeth? A smile is a curve that sets everything straight – Phyllis Diller.



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fondaG2201_468x680When I hit 25, I noticed the changes in my body. My skin tone is not that bright and elastic. Once I hit 28, fine lines seemed more noticable and I am prone to having pigments. I welcome them with open arms, because I embrace my age. For those of you who are not ready in getting there, take care of yourself.

1) Breasts. This is serious. Your boobs will feel saggy. Do massages and bench presses whenever you are free so as to keep those glands active. Most of all, get a bra that provides enough support and not because it is “pretty”. Protect y0ur precious. There is only 1 set. Fake ones will never feel the same.

2) Your skin loses its elasticity. So, start those moisturisers going! Invest… it need not be an expensive brands. There are natural remedy in slowing down the aging process. Apply olive oil on your face or even hair to keep it hydrated. It contains high vitamin E to keep skin glowing and healthy.

3) Eat healthy. Although I am not a saint in watching my diet, I made sure that I take my supplments to keep me going. Drink lots of freshly squeezed fruit juices! Reduce your intake of carbohydrates because as we age, our body’s metabolism rate drops, therefore we digest slower and gain weight faster!

4) Dress your age. You are no longer in the teenage years. Time to grow up and get some proper and decent clothes which does not expose your mid-drift. Basic makeup is a necessity as it is a form of public courteosy. Do you ever want to see your mum in her 40s dressing like she is in her 20s? Well I don’t! Mature ladies should dress with sophistication and taste. If you are not sure what to do about yourself, consult an image professional!


If you have black hair and want to add a bit of life to your face, a simple copper highlight goes a long way for Asians with golden yellow skin toneLucy Liu. Auburn for those fair yellow or pinkish skin. The finer your hair, the brighter the initial colour would be because the dye can penetrate the entire shaft of hair quickly. So do not fret when there is a high contrast in the highlights and original hair colour.  There are some of us who aspire to be blonde, Asian blonde. I would not recommend a full blonde because ultimately, the base colour of our hair is black or dark brown. Well, you can either cause your skin to look white washed or simply unnatural. Not everyone can pulled off the colour and be called elegant. In this case, a chemical is used to bleach the hair before a new colour is added on. Remind yourself of your Asian roots (no pun intended).

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If you are in an industry where being “conventional” is the key culture, as far as possible, choose a hair dye close to your hair colour. If creativity is stressed at your workplace, go ahead and be more adventurous. How you hightlight your hair affects the way your customers and colleagues see you. Do it with care and consideration.

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Oh my goodness! As I did a research on tying a tie I realised there are so many ways to do it and for different purposes and look! Want a classic yet simple way to tie a tie? Go for Half Windsor!

1)  Bring the wide end of the tie over the narrow

2) Swing the wide end around the back

3) Bring the wide end up and through the middle

4) Swing the wide end around the front

5) Bring wide end to the back

6) Hold the front of the knot loose with your index finger, put the wide end through the loop from Step (5)

7) Tighten the knot


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business_woman_with_groupBusiness casual wear can be worn during informal occasions such as dress down Fridays, company sports events, school project presentation or even during a career fair where they might be a chance for an interview. Here are some specific guidelines that you can follow.

For men:

1) Ties –  Ties are generally not necessary for business casual wear. However, it’s safer to be slightly overdress. By doing so, you are also paying compliments to your host. If no one is wearing a tie, you can discreetly remove it in the washroom.

2) Shirts – You have a choice of wearing long sleeves or short sleeves shirts. White or blue solid shirts and conservative stripes are your best bets. For some casual situations, you can even choose to wear polo T-shirts.

3) Shoes and socks – Wear dark socks mid-calf length. When seated, no skin should be visible.  Leather shoes should be worn.

For women:

1) Pants/skirts – Both can be worn and the material should be crisps and not tight. In general, navy blue, brown, grey and black are appropriate for business casual wear. Skirts should come to at least your knee length when standing up. Skirt slits at the back are appropriate to facilitate walking but not side slits that facilitate the view of the legs.

2) Accessories – Wear a conserative watch. Accessories such as jewelry and scarves should be kept simple, leaning toward conversative. You would have more flexiblity if you are in a creative industry.

3) Cosmetics – Keep makeup simple and natural looking. It’s better to have a polished look in a conservative industry. Keep your nails clean and well-groomed. Avoid extreme length of nails and colours in conservative industries.